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Last Wednesday I attended a Special Valentine’s Event workshop called “How to tell a Sweet Heart from a Sweet Tart” on my college campus. I posted this on my job website since I attend the events for this purpose to inform the students we talk to or attend classes with. So, I wanted to share. This is one of many events that take place and was the least attended. The focus of this was to have a discussion about the unhealthy and healthy signs in relationships as well as discuss any experiences or resources out there for woman and men of domestic violence including immigrants.
Unfortunately, women are the highest percentage in domestic violent relationships and men are the highest percentage of abusers. Woman victims of abuse range from 18-24 years of age and this can be abusive, unhealthy, or abusive relationships. But, as we know abuse can happen to those that are older too. Most of abusers are charmers and seem sweet at first but as you get to know them they become a tart. Not, that it doesn’t happen to men these are just the statistics. I liked the fact that there were men in the audience. The key is education, which starts at home. Education both girls and boys when they are young what is right and wrong how to treat a girl or boy or how a girl is supposed to be treated. As we get older it gets harder for the woman to leave and it’s not easy and as the boy gets older it’s harder to break the habit of abuse when he may have seen it in the home or even television. Abuse is not just Violent it can be verbal and manipulation. For legal help you can contact your local Domestic Violence Action Center who can provide Legal Resources, Case Managers, lawyers and Interpreters for Immigrants. That’s right if someone threatens to deport you if you tell there are legal ways to get help. In addition to this there are help lines, school counselors, community support groups, Bills and testimonies in progress. “It takes a community” to assist a victim Even if she can’t leave or doesn’t want to leave it’s important to be supportive think of ways to keep her from being isolated is another way to be supportive. Below are two charts I made that are signs of a healthy relationship verses an unhealthy relationship. No relationship is perfect but these are obvious and extreme signs to get out.
Healthy Relationship
Non-Violence
Respect
Trust & Support
Open Communication
Equal
Self Confidence
Personal Growth
No peer pressure
Unhealthy Relationships
Violent
Anger
Peer Pressure
Emotional Abuse
Sexual Coercion
Intimidation
Using Social Status
Economic abuse-ie. immigrants threaten deportation
Power
Control
Threats
Use of suicide as a threat
Isolation
Feeling unworthy
If you have any questions or need elaboration please IM me or ask me in post. Thanks
~Han
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 Your Welcome, Jack, thanks for those websites I will bookmark those as well as pass along on my campus.
| Jack Belvedere wrote: | Thanks Han for the info! I'm a mandatory reporter due to my type of work, and have come across cases in the field that had to be investigated. It's still sometimes a hush-hush thing so it's good to know signs you might see in people you know.
Here's a couple links.
http://www.domesticviolence.org/
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/domestic-violence/WO00044
For shelters state by state:
http://www.letswrap.com/usadv/ |
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